A story worth sharing.....

4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the physical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mum for my child.

There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.

With the double r oles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bedsheet and blanket!

Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:

"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me. However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."

At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mummy.

A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mum, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.

However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mummy. And that was the reason for his absence as he has no mummy.....

Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to himself and stayed in his room to practise his writing, which I am sure, would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'cos he makes me proud too!

Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the christmas spirit is in every passer-by...Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, ' I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.

His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy.

My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..."

After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to say....

I told my son, " Son, mummy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mummy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldnt help opening the letter before they turn to ash.

And one of the letters broke my heart....

Dear Mummy,

I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldnt help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mummy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But Mummy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your
dreams. But mummy, why havent you appear?


After reading the letter, I can't stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....

For the females with children:

Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of yo ur little precious.

For the married men:

Drink less, smoke less, cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.

Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable.

Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones.

For those singles out there:

Beauty lies in loving yourself first.

With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more than your well being.

Happiness derived from giving

This story tells of a beautiful woman dressed in an expensive
complained to his psychiatrist that he felt his whole life was empty
means.

So the psychiatrist called an old woman sweeping the floor and said
to the rich woman, "I'll have Mary here for
tell you how he found happiness. I want to
you hear it. "

The old woman put down her broom and sat in a chair and
tells her story: "OK, my husband died of malaria and three
months later my only son died in an accident. I do not have
anyone. I lost everything. I can not sleep, can not
eat, I never smiled at anyone, even I think
to end my life. Then one evening a kitten
followed me home. For a moment I felt sorry for him.

The cold weather outside, so I decided to let the kitten
into the house. I gave her milk and she drank it down. Then
the kitten cuddle in my leg and for the first time I
smile.

A moment later I was thinking if helping a little kitten
can make me smile, maybe doing something for someone
others will make me happy. So the next day I took a few
biscuits to give to a neighbor who was sick in places
sleep. Every day I try to do something nice for every
people. It makes me happy when seeing other people happy.
Today, I do not know what anyone could sleep and eat better
from me. I have found happiness by giving. "

When the rich woman listening to it, he wept. He has
everything that money can buy but he is missing something
which can not be bought with money

ROCK CLIMBER

Once, there was a mountain climber who was getting ready to travel. In back, there are backpack carriers and various carabiners (hooks) that looks hanging. Not to forget rigging a circle on the sidelines of his shoulders. Ascent time is quite heavy, preparations were complete.

Now, in front of him towered a high mountain. The peak was visible, covered with white snow. There are clouds around it-wine, make no one knows what is hidden inside. Begin this young climber stepping, treading the streets of snow that stretched in front of him. Hooked stick that he bring it, seemed stuck every time he swung his step.

After several hours of walking, he began to face a steep wall. It was impossible for him to move on. Prepared ropes and hooks in his back. The cliffs were too steep, he must climb with ropes that. After a few hooks plugged in, suddenly heard the roar coming from above. Gosh, there's snow storm that came unexpectedly. Avalanche seems heavy upon the body of the climber. Blocks of hardened snow, kept falling accompanied by the roar of the wind that made his body-slammed toward the wall.

The storm continued for several minutes. However, fortunately the rigging and the hook has saved his body from the steep walls. All the equipment is gone, there's only a knife at his waist. Now he seemed to hang upside down in the wall that's steep. His vision blurred, because everything is white. He did not know where he is.

The climbers are so worried, then he mumbles, pleading prayer to God to be saved from this disaster. His mouth continued to mutter, hoping for some help of God came to him.

Things were quiet after the storm. Amid the panic, it seems a voice of her heart that told him to do something. "Cut the rope .... cut the rope."

There was silence across the ears. The climbers are confused, does this command from God? Does this sound is help from God? But how is it possible, cut the rope that had been rescued, while the walls are so steep? My view is blocked by snow, how could I know? Lots of questions within himself. Long he pondered this decision, and he did not take any decisions ...

A few weeks later, a climber found a body hanging upside down in a steep wall. The body seemed to freeze, and appears to have died of cold. Meanwhile, the body's boundary with the land, is only 1 meter ....

Expensive dog Fifty Thousand Dollars Worth

An economist left the office building and saw a child
child sits on the curb with a dog. The boy shouted to
economists, "Hey, if you want to buy a dog."

He was interested in the sale of children's approach and ask,
"How much do you want for your dog?"

The boy told him, "Fifty thousand dollars."

"Fifty thousand dollars!?" people were amazed. "What special tricks
owned this dog so the price to be worth fifty thousand
dollars, "asked the man.

The boy replied, "Sir, this dog never made money in
his life. In fact, by calculating what he eats I think you
can say you will lose money on him every year. "

Economists feel this is a good time to explain economics to the
youth and describes how something should generate
more revenue than what is consumed to equal the selling price
end, and with the dog he probably could get five dollars from
someone who wants to keep the dog. Feeling he has given
a very valuable lesson for the young man, economists continued
journey.

A few weeks later, the economist out of his office building and child
little longer sit on the curb without a dog. The man said
him, "I see you took my advice and sell the dog
for five dollars. "

The boy said, "No, I got fifty thousand dollars for it."

The business man was totally flabbergasted. "How did you get five
twenty thousand dollars for the dog ??!!" he asked.

"That's easy," said the boy. "I'm trading it with two tails
cat for twenty-five thousand dollars. "

A house with a thousand mirrors

Once upon a time, in a small village, there is a place called Home with
1000 Mirror. A small dog, who is always cheerful, or heard of
the place and he decided to visit it. When he arrived, he
jumping happily up the stairs in the house. He saw
enforced around the ears and his tail Shaked
as fast as he could. He was amazed when he saw another small dog 1000
cheerful face and wagged his tail as soon as its tail. He
grinned, and answered with a warm smile and 1000
friendly. When he left the house, he said to himself
himself, "This is a beautiful place, I will come again with
often. "
In the same village, there was another little dog who not so cheery Than
the other one. He also decided to visit the house. With
Slowly he climbed the stairs. He was gloomy and did not uphold the head when he
see through the door. When she saw in 1000 looked at her dog
not friendly, he growled and he was surprised to see 1000 little dogs
It also growled back at him. After he left the place, he
said to himself, "That place is not fun, I
not going there again. "
All faces in this world is a mirror. Shadow how are you
expect to face people you meet?

Lionel Andres Leo MESSI... a miracle

On June 24, 1987 was born a little baby who suffered from a hormone disorder from underprivileged families in the coastal town of Rosario, Argentina. Adolescence he likes to play football and have a dream to become the world's best players. He kept trying to practice and practice to reach a dream, but unfortunately, existing hormone disorder in him from birth becomes an obstacle. None of football clubs in the country who want to receive it.
Hormone disorders suffered cause abnormal body growth, and high well below average, due to physical factors and health in a primary requirement distinguished.Which club will accept it, who must pay a very expensive to cure him, certainly not a good investment.
Almost destroyed his dream with his illness. But he was not discouraged, keep practicing as hard as possible honing his expertise in playing the round leather.Indeed, God never closes his eyes for his people who want to try. Until finally the miracle came. A European giants eventually will accept it, and willing to bear the entire cost of treatment which is very expensive.
If he was a distinguished player mediocre, of course, will only be a burden for the club.But the reality of what happens, teens who since birth has a hormonal disorder that is now becoming a rara avis, delivering his favorite club won the League, even last night won the European Champions League, and he became the world's best player two years in a row ...
Yes ... Lionel Andres "Leo" Messi ... World's best players who promise NOT BE LEAVING the club who has changed his life, realizing dreams, BARCELONA.
IF ONLY "Messi" born WHICH CAN NOT PERFECT reach his dream, let alone we are born .... PERFECT

He never left me alone

From nothings to be a something

BACKGROUND TO THE POOR AND POVERTY IS NOT AN EXCUSE FOR NOT ACHIEVING SUCCESS. 
by Ve Koesoema.
BIOGRAPHY OF A PRESIDENT OF SOUTH KOREA - Lee Myung Bak.   He was born from a very poor family. All day long he fills his stomach with free pulp wheat and prop with plenty of water.
  In their teens, he became a cheap food peddlers and ice cream. And then became a construction worker.
  Although he is very poor, but he has a strong determination to pursue higher education. He studied hard to earn high school scholarships. Due to great achievements, he was accepted at Korea University. For the cost of college, he worked as a street sweeper.
  Because a member of student council involved anti-government demonstrations, he was sentenced to prison experiment in 1964.
  After finishing the study and then he worked at Hyundai. His ability to impress the top brass that his career continues the Hyundai sped. He successfully built and led a division like a money machine devision.
  After 30 years at Hyundai, he attended a city council member in 1992. Then in 2002, he was elected mayor of Seoul. He is what ultimately on February 25, 2008 was inaugurated as President of South Korea.
  Lee Myung Bak showed that, even if someone comes from a very poor family, he could reach the peak of success with hard work and sincerity.
  Myung Bak was working in Indonesia as a supervisor / foreman on the project-level highway from Jakarta - Cikampek in the mid 80's.
  Myung Bak is a clear example of how every person can change his fate. Poverty and poor backgrounds is not an excuse to not succeed.
  So, whoever you are .. You have the right to achieve SUCCESS long as they have high motivation, passion, hard work, and was never desperate.

Amazing... Grace

THINK OF SOMETHING.

At one time there was a blind girl who hated herself. Because the blind. Not only for himself, but he also hated everyone except her boyfriend. He was always there for her and comforted her. He said he would marry his girl that if her girls had been able to see the world.
  One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to the girl was the last he could see everything, including his girl's lover. Her boyfriend asked his daughter was, "Honey ... now you can already see the world.Do you want to marry me? "The girl was shocked when she saw that her boyfriend turned out to be blind. And she refused to marry the man that his girlfriend who so far has been very loyal once accompanied his life during the girl's blind eye.
  And finally the man's girlfriend went to shed tears, and then write a short letter to his girl that, "Darling, please you keep a good pair of eyes which I have given you.
  * * * ****
  Today before you think of saying an unkind word Think of someone who can not speak.
  Before you complain about the taste of your food Think of someone who does not have anything to eat.
  Before you complain about your husband, think of someone who's crying out to God for healing so that her husband is NOT crippled for life.
  Today before you complain about life, Think of someone who is so quick to go to the grave with still include poverty.
  Before you complain about your children, Think of someone who was expecting a child, but finding none.
  And when you are tired and complain about your job, Think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who want your job.
  And when life seems to get you down, put a smile on your face and thank God you're alive and still in this world. ENJOY and GIVE THE BEST IN EVERY SECOND IN YOUR LIFE, BECAUSE THAT will not happen again for you time later!

He knows more about who we are

When I ask for strength,
God gave me difficulties
So I can be strengthened

When I ask for wisdom,
God gave me problems
For at break

When I beg of heaven,
God whack me with a test

When I ask the forgiveness of sins,
God gave me a pain

When I ask for welfare,
God gave me reason to think

When I ask for courage,
God gave me dangers to be able to handle

When I need love,
God gives people with problems
For I can help

When I pleaded wisdom,
God gave me a disaster for me analysis
With my intellect and mind

I never received what I asked for,
But I accept what I need.